i was told that buying the portrait lens in the Olympus PEN series would create the look. i think there's an effect setting in the SONY NEX3 that would create that big telephoto lens look.

i know thie PEN is lighter, but which takes better, sharper pix?

Yeah, it may sound like a stupid question but the Olympus PEN E-PL1 had a "handle" in the body's right hand side. It felt comfortable for me, a guy with biggish hands. Now that the E-PL1 has been discontinued and I'm still considering a micro 4/3s as my next camera, the E-PM1's extra small size has me on the fence.
Any thoughts from the three users that own it (@peter)?